Unending List of The Black Experience -Updated 04/08/2013

The belief that every white person is against you. This makes many black people defiant, angry and suspicious with the little chance of developing any trusting partnerships. Here is an example the Black Experience resulting in the Failure to Listen, continuing the cycle of poverty and dependency.

Eyes filled with pain
Eyes filled with pain

Unending List of The Black Experience -Updated 04/08/2013

As I encounter and remember, I will list.   Please keep in mind I am speaking in terms of generalities.

It is those little things accumulated over time that makes one bitter, angry, and isolated, emotionally and physically.

 

  1. Black and Power are antonyms.

  2. White and Power are synonyms and equal to White Privilege.

  3. I was conscious and hesitant to acknowledge or strike up a conversation with another black person in the presence of white people. When I was an intern at the Boston City Hospital, a resident asked me in front of my colleagues (other interns) if I knew where her money was. I was the only black person in the room. In her mind, black people were thieves—naturally, I must be a thief. Sadly, four years at Cornell University and another four at Yale Medical School did not make me any different than a common criminal because I am black and proud! Black boys and men live in fear of being falsely accused and imprisoned.

  4. One of my most poignant experiences occurred at Cornell. I was in a non-science, small class that allowed us to sit around a table. I can’t remember what the topic of the day was, but I will always remember what that white boy sitting across from me said. He confidently proclaimed that black people were stupid and lazy.

    Then there was absolute silence.

    All eyes were on me!

    …Tick-tock…tick-tock…tick-tock……Silence…tick-tock…

    (what to say…everyone was looking at me)…

    I was the only black person in the class, so I was expected to respond and defend my race; unfortunately, I was speechless. In retrospect, no one said anything. I think people were disappointed in me. Their silence made them accomplices to this white boy’s racist statement – it signalled their agreement.

    After moments of uncomfortable silence, the discussion continued. I don’t recall the professor correcting that boy or anyone being offended except me. People were simply embarrassed because I was in the room, and mad because I didn’t give them a show.

    Unbeknownst to everyone, I left that classroom with stone cold eyes and a rigid body.  I don’t know how I controlled my tears or how I returned to the sanctity of my room, but I do remember the tears and feeling like crap. I was angry, not at that idiot white boy, but at myself for not defending myself and my race. At that time, I was not well-versed in the ways of the dominant culture. In retrospect, it was good I did not respond.

  5. Black leaders are pounded for speaking their truth; white leaders are praised for reinforcing and embellishing  stereotypes. Remember Mitt Romney’s comments about 40% of Americans on entitlements. In reporting crimes believed to be committed by black people, the media will display a large scary image of the “guilty” person. (Please note the law states you are innocent until proven guilty—not so with the media.)   A black person in the background of an image implies guilt and violence; they are also very diligent in their mention of race. On the other hand, in reporting heinous crimes committed by white people, the media does not usually display large scary images in the background, nor is the person’s race mentioned—unless it’s a manhunt.

  6. At Boston City Hospital, I remember one attendant doctor who disliked me intensely. No matter what I said, it was wrong. Some of my colleagues even commented on it when they thought he was contradicting himself in trying to make me wrong. One evening, after a very hard day, he decided to treat everyone to a meal—except me. Do you know how it feels to see everyone being asked what they like, except you?  Also, to see everyone eating happily while I starved was humiliating and made me feel worthless!

  7. Even at the School of Public Health, the experts make associations that reinforce stereotypes.  In one class about the channels of communication and knowing your target audience, the discussion centered on black people being at risk for HIV.  Many in the class took the above for granted.   Only a few realized the stereotype  being reinforced.The professor prevented me from expressing my point of view.    To me, the assumption that all black people are at increased risk for HIV was offensive and  false!     However, that communication  class let it stand because the CDC found those ads effective for black audiences.In  the video ads, black women were  portrayed as promiscuous, reinforcing a stereotype now embellished with myths.

    There are studies, professors, and classmates who believe black children have sex because they have nothing to do after school.

    The other malarkey is that black women lust to be gang-raped, and so they are.

    These myths are offensive, but when they are part of a public health curriculum,  stereotypes become evidence-based.   Without meaningful data, the evidence the associations dangerous and sloppy.

  8. Are these  future public health official  going to help the disenfranchised? I have serious doubts.

    For your information:

    HIV is transmitted sexually and by blood. HIV is not transmitted racially. To associate HIV with the black race, or any other race, is to mislead and ignore the  behaviors that put all races at risk. HIV is a perfect example of a disease where lifestyle changes and medicine have removed the death sentence from the diagnosis.

  9. The belief that every white person is against you.   This makes many black people defiant, angry, and  suspicious with little chance of developing  any trusting partnerships.   Here is an example of the Black Experience resulting in the Failure to Listen, continuing the cycle of poverty and dependency.

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Author: Angela Grant

I am a first generation Jamaican immigrant whose experiences and accomplishments were made possible by the courage, sacrifices and the heroic acts of many whose bodies have rotted away in unmarked graves. Those are my heroes. Their sacrifices and death paved the way for my children and I. Failure to Listen is a token of my eternal gratitude. Failure to Listen is a tribute those generations of unmarked graves occupied by people of all races whose ultimate sacrifice of life opened the door for me and others, THANK YOU. Failure to Listen https://failuretolisten.wordpress.com/ uses cultural lenses to appreciate and understand the relationships between current events and our values, beliefs and attitudes. Culture is everything without it we are nothing. Failure to Listen will take you on a journey to recognize the beauty of our differences as the seeds to creativity, innovation and resolving disparities. By sharing my personal and professional experiences, I hope to do justice to the perspectives of those who are rarely heard or listened to. This site is not to incite anger but rather to provoke thought. It is my hope that Failure to Listen will work to foster intergroup dialogues and motivate readers to step outside the box and get to know ALL PEOPLE. In the spirit of Martin Luther King, let's join hands and remember his famous speech about a dream... A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has. -Margaret Mead

4 thoughts on “Unending List of The Black Experience -Updated 04/08/2013”

  1. even i notice in vienna that as i walk down the street with my ghanaian friends that i constantly get stared at and my friends are constantly scolded. isn’t sad to live in a society that still has difficulty getting past the color of your skin?

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    1. You are a rarity moderndaychris!

      Most people do not notice such things. So many times, my white male friends will gleefully say, I don’t know what it feels like to be discriminated against.. or I just can’t relate and dismiss your feelings. Or I don’t see it, you are being too sensitive

      Race is not genetic, much of our racial differences are geographically determined.

      Thank you for stopping by and I appreciate your comments.

      Angela

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