Is Social Media stifling Emotional Intelligence?

Is Social Media stifling Emotional Intelligence?


Today, I read the most insightful perspective on social media by Arianna Huffington. In her article published on the Huffington Post, Disconnect: A New Movie Sounds the Alarm About Our Hyper-Connected Lives, she makes some astute observations from the movie, Disconnect. Social media or the internet is a form of technological distraction from life, leading us to miss out on many potential treasured memories.

(I have to admit my recent venture into blogging is distracting, but enjoyable. My problems seem less important the more I write—yes, leading to procrastination, but also, opening my mind to new possibilities. It’s a double-edged sword.)

She concluded that too much dependence on technology dulls one’s ability to connect with others. I see that happening with many children. One problem I often think about is whether 24/7 internet produces maladaptive behaviors in young, developing minds that come in contact with self-destructive groups. For many marginalized children, the internet offers hope of belongingness, but at what price? If belonging means not only adopting destructive behaviors but also becoming disconnected very early in life, then that is not good! Both instances inevitably lead to poor educational, economic, and health outcomes.

I believe this paradoxical finding is a by-product of Internet over-use because of stress. (Recent data show a majority of Americans use the internet to find health related information.) The Internet allows children and adults experiencing chronic stress to connect digitally while imposing self-imprisonment. We live in isolation with internet access. What does that mean for our children?

The link to the article:

Author: Angela Grant

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6 thoughts on “Is Social Media stifling Emotional Intelligence?”

  1. The internet maybe is like technology in general – neither good nor bad in itself – it is how people use it and monitor it’s use. Like a microchip can be put into armaments – or it can be put into pacemaker. It can be used inoil rigs or used in wind farms . . .

    Definitely I think elcetronic media can disconnect people emotionally, and worse – and children are especially vulnerable – so we need to guide them ( and one another).

    On the other hand, I believe we can truly share and learn and grow from the use of social media – making positve emotional connections. To me it It is sort of like Pierre Tielhard de Chardin envisioned aand named the ‘noosphere’ – the sphere of consciousness.

    Ass you day, Angela – It is truly a double edged sword – I too get distracted and somtimes procrastinate about the chores etc. (like right now – but is thsi really a distracaction?) . . .

    I find great joy and hope in the creative aspects of blogging. I am also stimulated by the exchange and diversity of other peoples narratives, as I discover so many experiences and journeys, out in the blogosphere and from all around the earth, in very literal way also.

    Is Social Media stifling Emotional Intelligence? Maybe yes – maybe no. And like so much of life, with many shades of gray, eh? Best regards Bruce


    1. Hi Bruce, Thank you for your insighful observations…I agree wholeheartedly. Studies show the social media helps some marginalized kids develop a sense of belonging. But as you say, children need to have a good balance, of virtual and real, to develop healthy social skills.

      Thank you for your comment.



  2. Thanks, Angela!
    BTW, did you ever get my comment (it was on an education post) asking if you knew of a pediatrician named Mimi Poinsett? It was in relation to where I think you will find an online community.
    I was about ready to tweet her about you, but hesitated to intrude.
    Old Busybody Claire


    1. I did and I thought I responded but I could have done so on your blog…? I looked her up found her tweets and blogs. She is an interesting person.

      I’ll look because I am sure I responded with a lengthy reply. 🙂


  3. I think the phenomenon you describe is exacerbated by the general culture-wide denial of what is really going on in this society: the profound inequities re. class, race, etc are getting worse, not better – and the denial itself is as artificial and toxic as is a virtual world to which both adults and children turn for…escape? I don’t know if it’s escape. Certainly, it’s public expression, or lack thereof has been imposed by white racist power.
    But when I consider new evidence that the male human brain doesn’t fully develop until age 22 (23?), I think it’s a very sobering situation.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog (and for making my latest post one of your favorites!) I really appreciate it.



    1. Hi Claire, I get so few comments I missed yours. There should be a highlight feature for someone in my situation. 🙂

      You are so right about the artificiality of the denial and I love your analogy to the virtual world. I think some people feel that it doesn’t exist if they don’t acknowledge or talk about it , instead they deny the differences.

      The pre-frontal cortex is not fully develop until mid twenties to mid thirties. Just consider that fact then think about our policies around children: zero tolerance and charging children as adults. Now think about how unevenly those polices affect disadvantaged children and children of color. We are becoming a ridiculous society–but I guess I am responding on a not so good day.

      Thank you for stopping by. And you are welcome ! Angela


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