The last 10 years flew by with me still single. Now I’m ready to find a mate but not so easy for this black woman. I live in NH. Will say no more, just leave the reader to wander between the lines and understand.
Saturday, I hastily completed a match.com profile and immediately felt like fresh meat, dinner for “potential” suitors. Well this is day 3 and so far, lots of likes but no interest on my part.
Why is it so hard to find a suitable man?
Partly because I faced a dilemma. I was married to a white man. My profession and location forced me to be surrounded by white men so I dated many white men. There wasn’t much diversity. A common question was, do I date black men? (Where tf are they to date?)
White men are wonderful! To really enjoy their world, I often gave up the simple and wonderful pleasures of my culture as well as my desire for diversity. A cultural difference existed and it took a while for me to appreciate.
Today, dating a black man would be a novelty, an adventure. I know that sounds ludicrous, but it’s true. And it’s no easy venture to find a suitable black man (or any man) for a woman like me.