A Black Woman Looking For Her Man

Angela Grant 5/2017

The last 10 years flew by with me still single.  Now I’m ready to find a mate but not so easy for this black woman.   I live in NH.   Will say no more, just leave the reader to wander between the lines and understand.

Saturday, I hastily completed a match.com profile and immediately felt like fresh meat, dinner for “potential” suitors.  Well this is day 3 and so far, lots of likes but no interest on my part.

Why is it so hard to find a suitable man?

Partly because I faced a dilemma.  I was married to a white man.  My profession and location forced me to be surrounded by white men so I dated many white men.  There wasn’t much diversity.  A common question was, do I date black men?  (Where tf are they to date?)  

White men are wonderful! To really enjoy their world, I often gave up the simple and wonderful  pleasures of my culture  as well as my desire for diversity.   A cultural difference existed and it took a while for me to appreciate.

Today, dating a black man would be a novelty, an adventure. I know that sounds ludicrous, but it’s true.  And it’s no easy venture to find a suitable black man (or any man) for a woman like me.  

Any suggestions?  

Author: Angela Grant

I am a first generation Jamaican immigrant whose experiences and accomplishments were made possible by the courage, sacrifices and the heroic acts of many whose bodies have rotted away in unmarked graves. Those are my heroes. Their sacrifices and death paved the way for my children and I. Failure to Listen is a token of my eternal gratitude. Failure to Listen is a tribute those generations of unmarked graves occupied by people of all races whose ultimate sacrifice of life opened the door for me and others, THANK YOU. Failure to Listen https://failuretolisten.wordpress.com/ uses cultural lenses to appreciate and understand the relationships between current events and our values, beliefs and attitudes. Culture is everything without it we are nothing. Failure to Listen will take you on a journey to recognize the beauty of our differences as the seeds to creativity, innovation and resolving disparities. By sharing my personal and professional experiences, I hope to do justice to the perspectives of those who are rarely heard or listened to. This site is not to incite anger but rather to provoke thought. It is my hope that Failure to Listen will work to foster intergroup dialogues and motivate readers to step outside the box and get to know ALL PEOPLE. In the spirit of Martin Luther King, let's join hands and remember his famous speech about a dream... A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has. -Margaret Mead

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