FFT: Did White Women Just Get What They Deserve?

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Food for thought:  With Kavanaugh confirmed, did white women just get what they deserve?

I was not a fan of Brett Kavanaugh for a lifetime position given the allegations of sexual assault, his partisan retort as well as his volatile temperament. Now that he’s confirmed it’s time to move on but also indelible in my mind are the Senators who voted for the bastardization of justice. As a new week begins, it’s time to reflect upon the irony and perhaps #karma.  After years of falsely accusing black men of rape, white women finally started to point fingers at their perpetrators with the #MeToo movement.

Over the last several weeks, I read stories of how traumatized white women became after instances of groping white males, genital flashing or rape by a train of white boys/men.   On TV and in images, I saw the anger and rage of white women who decried not being heard or taken seriously by white men.  I thought welcome to the tip of my world as a woman of color.

Then I reflected on American history. The countless number of times white women maliciously and without remorse falsely accused black men and boys of rape.  These white women intentionally traumatized and destroyed black families with uncorroborated false accusations knowing the outcome would be torture then death.  Maybe Curtis, Rudy, Pete, and others can share such cases in history such false allegations inflicted indelible trauma on the hippocampus of black children and black families.

I read today white women plan to #TakeAKnee; they want to change it to #TakeAKneeForWomen. Can you believe that? Weren’t white women on record blasting as unpatriotic black NFL players who protested police brutality by taking a knee?  Isn’t this sort of the #Hypocrisy and  #DoubleStandards white women condemn in white men with the #MeToo movement?

I recommend white women pause a moment to understand why the presumption of innocence and corroboration are necessary for justice. Unfortunately, both appear required only when white men stand accused but not when white women accuse black men or children, why is that?

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Author: Angela Grant

Angela Grant is a medical doctor. For 22 years, she practiced emergency medicine and internal medicine. She studied for one year at Harvard T. H Chan School Of Public Health. She writes about culture, race, and health.

21 thoughts on “FFT: Did White Women Just Get What They Deserve?

  1. Angela kudos love your post! Let me add this after listening to a video “The racist history of the Supreme Court with Dr. Claud Anderson &Dr.Boyce Wakins the Democrats should have talk about the racist history of the SC and the lack of true Black representation on the court and push the appointment of a Black woman. Dr. Anderson pointed out the first 54 SC justices were slave owners! In my opinion there’s only one way we will get justice and I’ve talked about it to you before.

    1. Thank you, Rudy. It wasn’t hard to see the irony of the spectacle.

      I don’t think people understand how much like weed the seeds of racism are. Once they take root, they are virtually impossible to eliminate. However, when you plant, fertilize and nurture the planted seeds, they take over not only your yard but the entire neighborhood, community and so on.

      Do you want to share what that one way is?

  2. That was a great post. I never thought of it that way as something karmic against White women who lie about being raped by Black men. There’s a #TakeAKneeForWomen? Wow, talk about co-opting a movement! Then again, so many things from Black people and even additional ethnic groups have been co-opted or straight up ripped off, but those are stories for other days (wow, I’ve been watching too many Dr. Mumbi videos lately. Haha!). This is the same country where it used to be legal for White men to rape Black women, so this rape culture thing really isn’t new. Don’t get me wrong, I obviously didn’t want Kavanaugh to be nominated for obvious reasons that we both agree on, but I seriously wonder if it leads to some massive wake up call for the majority culture.

    1. Curtis, Thank you. The hearings brought back memories. No matter what you cannot escape the past.

      Yes, there is a new movement #TakeAKneeForWomen. And it doesn’t even mention police brutality. It’s all about white women and their need to be heard when they make accusations of sexual assault. In their good ole days, remember white women raped black children, especially black male children. Ofc that was not widely reported. They were as bad as their men in raping slaves. When they got caught or the black man was uninterested white women then falsely accused them of rape.

      I’d like to see white women start a movement where they take accountability for numerous false allegations of rape that resulted in the death of countless black men.

      1. You’re welcome, Angela. I know the feeling of not escaping the past as things have triggered memories.

        I facepalmed and headdesk’d myself when I saw that hashtag. This is co-opting and watering down to the highest degree. Yes, sexual assault needs to be stopped, but there are better ways to curb it. I heard about some of those stories earlier this year when I did some independent research after watching Birth of a Nation (2016) for the first time.

        That’s a great idea and I wished they would finally take responsibility for lying about sexual assault. Speaking on that subject, I just finished a video from Lisa Cabrera doing commentary about the Harvey Weinstein and it mentioned that the chances of him going to jail are very slim. One of the excuses was because of statue of limitations, but apparently that wasn’t the same thing didn’t count when it came to Cosby. Unbelievable.

        1. Curtis, It’s infuriating, isn’t it? Apparently Weinstein still wields the same power too. He’s a close friend of Trump.
          It’s heart breaking to see Bill Cosby in prison especially for something that happened so long ago.

          During the Kavanaugh hearings there were women who said even if Kavanaugh did grope or rape girls at Yale it was too long ago to be relevant.

          Bill Cosby wasn’t nominated for a lifetime position yet wasn’t given the same consideration. He was guilty from the moment those women made the accusations.
          He could have received probation instead of prison like other men of his stature.

          I wonder why the “deep state” decided to take him down? You know it wasn’t about justice but punishment. He may not of jumped high enough or smiled enough or he may have had ideas about owning a media company. Who was behind it? & Why?

          Just speculation but I think they are going for Serena Williams next. I am afraid they are going to put her in a position where she loses her titles.

          What an unfair world!

          1. It is and your comment on the issue is correct in hindsight now that Weinstein was acquitted after what you posted. I wanted to pull my hair out when I found out the news. What I thought was ironic was the same people who were happy for Kavanaugh also applauded Weinstein. Think about it, this is a hardcore Republican judge and a self-identified Democrat media mogul respectively, but it doesn’t matter. They are two wings of the same over-privileged bird.

            I remember that and I was furious. I don’t want to hear anyone say “but it’s different” or “that was long ago” when it comes to sexual predators of certain skin colors.

            Exactly! They treat the accusations as if they were Gospel truth even though there were contradictions in their stories. Also, didn’t you think it was eerie how the accusations came out right before Cosby was going to get a very lucrative TV/media deal a few years ago?

            I do wonder about that, too. I’ve heard that during his prime, he had enough money to buy out NBC at one point in the 80s, but they couldn’t let a Black man own a major TV station (I know this before NBC merged with GE and eventually Universal, but that still would’ve been huge). One thing that I do see was that they could use Cosby as a proxy for Black men to be the face of #MeToo instead of your Weinsteins, O’Reillys, or more recently Moonveses.

            Serena Williams, you say? I could see that happening, but I don’t know what it would look like so far besides her reaction in that tennis match.

            Very much so, Angela.

            1. Curtis, I feel the same frustration as in your words. While we were taken against our will and brought to this country in bondage, I believe we have chosen to remain in bondage. If we hadn’t, we would have learned a long time ago never trust any system designed by them to provide us with justice or parity. When have they ever kept their word? The history of Native Americans should teach us white people cannot be trusted. Yeah, many will say that is a generalization, but it is one that will serve you well if you make it a fact of life. When it comes to their excess wants versus your basic need for survival, their excesses will take priority. And if that means serving you for lunch that’s what they’ll do.

              For self-preservation, you got to be on the alert when in their world.
              Don’t expect any free handouts! Anything they say is free comes with a price. Don’t expect to be given power or to share it. You have to take it! Unfortunately, we don’t have the weaponry might, but there are other ways to fight a war without shedding blood. We keep expecting them to give us permission, not realizing we don’t need it and shouldn’t trust whatever they offer. Generalizations serve the purpose of protection.

              As for Serena, I think it will look like that tennis match, and the hack that exposed she was on medications.

            2. No problem. What you’re talking about is that cerebral colonization which I’ve been really starting to realize over the past several months. It’s one thing breaking free from physical chains because you can still see and feel them, but it’s the mental ones that people don’t know they’re there. I do reluctantly agree that it’s a form of Stockholm Syndrome, but most people don’t know it. Yup, those Native Americans know a ton about broken treaties and promises and my eyes were opened about that culture even more so when I checked out the works of Winona LaDuke for example. Interesting you bring up generalizations since we’re still generalized in the media as either thugs, criminals, laughingstocks, or at best…the Black best friend/sidekick and that’s assuming if those stereotypes are attached to human characters in movies and TV. Besides my dad, his side of the family and a few Caucasian friends in real life, I certainly keep my watch at all times, so I totally get it. I certainly had trust issues with people even years before.

              That’s something I’ve learned a long time ago and I never got anything like that for free. The few things I did get, I know I busted my butt to get them. I may be a bunch of things, but entitled certainly isn’t one of them. Haha! The concept of power is something I’m still learning about and I had to force myself to be more assertive with people (blogging helped with that). I’ve been doing my best to do things independently like how I’ve been self-publishing my books as one example. I fear that publishing companies would water down or endlessly alter my stories even though over 2/3rds of them would be a PG-13 movie if they were rated like that.

              That’s a believable scenario if that were to happen to Serena.

            3. Your comment made me wonder why the colonizers didn’t enslave Native Americans? And why did Africans submit themselves so quickly to slavery? Wouldn’t it have been cheaper to make slaves out of the Native Americans once they decided to colonize? Instead, they transported Africans thousands of miles like cargo to the islands and America. What was the incentive or motive?

              Blogging/writing: I like blogging because I can be me. Your book writing your inspired me. I always wanted to write a book but never had the writing skills. However, you do.

            4. Good question, but Native Americans and Indigenous people were enslaved at some point although nowhere near as much as their African counterparts. Christopher Columbus is the architect of the Trans-Atlantic slave trade since 1492 as him and his people did enslave the Tainos for labor and even for concubines. It did spread to America, but using Native Americans as slaves became illegal in America in 1730. Think about it, that became illegal BEFORE America got independence and over a century before Africans were emancipated. From what I do know about the situations, there was big business going on with the African slaves. Not just the ships and the slave-owners, but there were banks and department stores that were directly tied to that industry. You had politicians from America and Europe who had stakes in this satanic industry even going back to 1562 with Jesus of Lubeck (oh, irony of ironies with that name) which is the first slave ship to capture Africans and people like Queen Elizabeth and whoever was the Pope at the time knew about that ship.

              Yes, and I definitely feel that way about being free to be me on this platform. Really? That’s very nice of you. Anything stand out with my fiction projects to you? I hope you can write a book or at least do something really creative.

            5. Curtis, I will provide detailed feedback once I finish reading one of your newly released books. I’m very impressed.

              Why were native Americans not enslaved like Africans is a question that is worth understanding? It speaks to the difference between the two cultures. I believe it has to do with Native Americans willingness to die and kill white people for their freedom rather than be their slaves, while Africans bought the kool-aid about Christianity and suicide is a sin. Africans succumbed to turn the cheek and mind control; today we listen to you go low we go high BS. We should have learned from Native Americans that whites could not be trusted to be fair or honest with us. If we were willing to die to be free instead of selling each other out, we would not be in this position. That’s my theory. I know our children and family make us vulnerable whether we are submissives coons or “militant blacks.” But it also makes white people vulnerable. We need to stop living in fear of our strength and be willing to die if need be.

              If we had the attitude give me freedom or give me death, where would we be today? I believe in a much stronger position.

              Isn’t it ironic that black people are stereotyped as violent thugs when, in general, we are peace loving and very forgiving? The animals and thugs are indeed white as we see their bigotry fear and hate on display.

            6. Sure thing and I await your feedback whenever you get to finish the books. It’s been a long time coming since I finally started publishing my works.

              Okay, now to the subject at hand. I would like to add to the sociology of Native Americans vs. Africans since one major aspect would be the location of it all. The Natives knew where they came from regardless if they were forced out or not, so they had a clearer sense of fighting over what’s their land. Contrast that to Black people who were taken by force out of their home countries and taken to the Americas. If you have no sense of home, then it would be easier to control someone. Interesting point you brought up about forced forgiveness. I finished watching two very recent videos in this whole “call 911 on Black people” trend involving Golfcart Gail in Florida for calling the cops on a dad talking to his son at a soccer game and someone who I’m calling Gas Station Gertrude who called the cops on a bunch of Black people who were doing a Stop the Violence rally and had to buy drinks for the kids participating. These 911 callers and all the rest never apologize or make insincere apologies and how is it that only Black people are the ones who are “forced” to forgive whenever Caucasians do something bad to them. I’ve had people not forgive me for far less whenever I was in the wrong even when I own up to my actions.

              I do admit that I’ve had my bouts of cowardice, but I’m doing everything I can to shake it off of me. Trust me, it’s been a learning process.

              Yes, and I’m certainly guilty of apologizing too much and forgiving (when necessary though). Funny enough, one of my goals in most of my books is to utilize a diverse cast of characters and with my POCs, I do everything I can to break stereotypes, yet make them feel like real people instead of just a list of stereotypes that must be destroyed if that makes sense. Not everything I do passes the Deggans Test, but I do enjoy creating these types of characters since I know mainstream media isn’t going to do so for me. This fear, hate, and bigotry is textbook projection whenever this “violent thug” moniker is thrown around like Hail Marys in a football game.

            7. Curtis, we were all brainwashed at one time or another by white people and their culture. We grew up looking up to them and wanting to be like them, wasn’t that the American dream? While we held them on a pedestal, they used fear, intimidation, and humiliation to keep us in check.

              They will kill you and your family without remorse. Hell, they’ll even brag about it on FB and get thousands of likes, congratulatory comments, and sharing of similar crimes. If they get much flack, they apologize, and all is well for them again.

              I pay the price for my honesty because I exist in their world and see them in action. I can volunteer for anything but to be paid I need to be white. I remember the resentment on the faces of the white salespeople when they had to give me an easy $300 in cash for feedback like the 30 other white people in the group. I learned there is so much money flowing around that black people don’t know about or don’t have access. The purse strings are held by whites even when the issues directly impact us.

            8. Yes, and I have realized this brainwashing in hindsight. I wish I had more self-esteem and just say “I just want to be ME!” especially when I was a child. That aforementioned fear, intimidation, and humiliation certainly hurt me even when I didn’t realize it in time.

              You’re not wrong. Just look at the Trayvoning trend that happened a few years ago or even All Lives Splatter after Charlottesville. There needs to be more pressure on those who disrespect people like us.

              Sorry to hear that and I can relate to being punished for my honesty. African-Americans have an estimated $1-$1.3 trillion spending rate each year, but it’s obvious where most of the money goes to. More Black business owners who are making companies for the right reasons would be a huge step up.

            9. Curtis, you make me think.
              How can you have more self-esteem as a child when you grow up in an environment where it’s lacking and everything you see or read hacks away at what little innate self-esteem you had at birth?
              As a young adult, I tried not to make rejections about race instead I focused on self-improvement. The problem was the model I used for self-improvement was part of white culture, and I lost myself in that culture. I was unhappy and miserable without knowing it. I silenced that inner voice and plowed on only to hit a brick wall.

              We have the purchasing power but not enough black-owned businesses to benefit from it.

            10. You’re making me think, too. This became more philosophical than I anticipated, but that’s alright though.

              It’s like most things I saw or rad hacked at me, but I didn’t even realize how or why they were. Self-improvement is good, but so many models are fallacious. I would try some of those things only for them to not work for me especially when I had to learn the hard way. To be fair, I wasn’t someone who used denial as a kind of “fake optimism” if that makes sense (I fell that so many people subscribe to that whether they know it or not).

              That’s sadly true. I do wish there were more Black-owned businesses in America. That entrepreneurial spirit needs to rise as cheesy as it sounds.

            11. How do we stop being the scapegoat for white people? How do we stop white people from projecting their cruelty and violence onto us? We need to collect raw data and analyze it ourselves. That’s what white people fudge to justify bigoted campaigns and policies.

            12. We can definitely start by having a counter-narrative with facts and evidence. I remember Phil from The Advise Show having that WOW series on his Advise Show Media channel and how he uses it to shut up racist trolls (they rarely ever comment on those videos and when they do, they get intellectually destroyed). I do agree about the raw data and showing it to everyone.

  3. Hi Angela! Two responses here in one. Firstly my opinion on false allegations. Well, for about a year now, I’ve been quite busy supporting men who’ve been falsely accused by women. All men, not specifically any colour. Secondly, I think your theory about the difference between the Native Americans and Africans is correct. However, if we look back at the time of peak slavery, the Indians were not enslaved (they got reservations), whereas Black people just had all their confidence and heritage taken away by the brutality of slavery.

    1. Hi Peter, That last line: “Black people just had all their confidence and heritage taken away by the brutality of slavery,” should be by the brutality of white people. We try to avoid mentioning the real culprits or hypocrites when they are white. European whites redefined slavery for Africans. They claimed Africans were not humans but rather a property. Who fucks their house or chair or any other property? I guess white people. Can a property have kids?

      European whites who colonized America were mostly criminals who made their fortune from crimes and that included the crime against humanity called slavery. How can a property have children? Slavery revealed the soul of white people and their need to justify or normalize their brutality and perversion with religion. Similar to now, white people justified their cruelty by dehumanizing black people while they fucked our men, women, children and newborns, all in the name of their god. Is there no shame or remorse? Do white people not cringe when they think about what their ancestors did? Do white people not feel a sense of responsibility for the destruction they caused? And then they want you to love life as they do. What hypocrisy! You should live and suffer while they enjoy watching you suffer.

      I felt terrible for Dr. Ford because she honestly believed that her word would be sufficient to convict Kavanaugh publicly. However, she found out that’s only the case when white women accuse black men of sexual assault. When white women accuse white men, there is a presumption of innocence and a need for evidence of an attack or a crime. Such evidence or presumption of innocence is not given to black men.

      Also, even when there is evidence most white men don’t serve jail time or register as sex offenders. Remember white people have to make sure the stats are stacked against black men to show them as the violent animals when in fact the savage animals turn out to be white men as history revealed over and over again. It’s always amazing when white people talk about their cruelty and brutality how they whitewash it by generalizing that everyone does terrible things. Yeah everyone does but white people cross a line of human decency and inhumanity that most cultures would never imagine. I wonder what the stats would reveal if there were not biasedly stacked to condemn the black race.

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