The Friend With Benefits
I knew the answer to the question. But I had to ask to confirm.
We had a nine year relationship of fun. One where we rarely argued and rarely spent more than three days together except when we lived in the same city.
Nine years later, we were at a romantic luxurious hotel. I asked him about our relationship. Turned out he didn’t know we had one.
He felt our future rested on the vacation now. I thought, what happened to the nine years? Nothing, it meant nothing. There was no future in our affair of nine years.
Then it came together. In bed, I desired to please him and I did. He didn’t desire the same and he didn’t please me. It didn’t matter if I climaxed so I started to please myself with him in bed. My half of the benefit was in me pleasing myself.
The relationship never grew. It was us having fun. That didn’t bother me because we traveled and that beat being bored and alone at home anytime.
I hesitated to ask the question because I knew what the response would trigger. The end! I’m not getting younger. I desire someone who wants all of me.
In addressing the elephant in the room, I faced my fear that there was no relationship. Now I can move on and stop depositing in his basket.
No regrets and no turning back!
Ask the tough question even if you will not like the answer.
When you get to a certain age, dating should involve conversations about the future, traveling and buying property. You get too old to just be sleeping together and eating out…