Food For Thought: What Is Love?

I want to get back to writing. Like working out, you should get right back on when you fall off the bandwagon. However, getting back to a routine is a slow and patient process. Today, I start with food for thought (FFT).

I am still single and wonder if I will ever find my guy if I keep running away. There is a pattern when I like someone. Invariably, I see a reason to escape. It’s not intentional. It just creeps up on me. One day, I thought the guy was the greatest and how lucky I was. The next day, I can’t see a future with the guy.

It goes back to my Dad, whose death pulled the rug from under me. When things are going as desired in a relationship, I have a way of making it a self-fulfilling prophecy that the future is one of pain. That causes me to run away when I should remember people don’t fall in love. They grow in love. It’s not only the good times that make a relationship. It’s also the difficult times when you feel vulnerable that nurture and form a solid foundation for a relationship. Love does not happen. It’s an intentional commitment.

What do you think love is? Is it first impression chemistry/lust, or does it grow with nurture? Is the latter love or friendship?


Author: Angela Grant

Angela Grant is a medical doctor. For 22 years, she practiced emergency medicine and internal medicine. She studied for one year at Harvard T. H Chan School Of Public Health. She writes about culture, race, and health.

7 thoughts on “Food For Thought: What Is Love?

    1. Hi Roald. Cute video. Suppose people tried to love instead of hating, judging, or labeling what a wonderful world it would be. But that will never happen because the prevailing culture relies on labels for supremacy.

  1. Candid post here Friend. I totally understand your point of view.

    When it comes to discussions on singleness and dating, and even wanting to find a future partner, we need to begin from the beginning, and that beginning is God!

    Many marriages that are happening, although glamorous and beautiful, many of them would not last. You know why? because they did not seek God’s face before they got married, they do not know if that person they married is God’s will for them. God is purposeful in bringing people together, and they each have things that they could fulfill in each other’s lives. God knows how everything that begins will end, and that is why we need to always put our love lives in the hand of God. We need to pray to God to help us stay in purity, and to make us ready, while he brings our kingdom spouse to us, or while he leads us to them. We need to ask God to lead the way, because only God can lead us to the person that is truly right for us. Even then, God is the only person who can ever truly love us fully. A person can love you so much, but because they are human, they are prone to hurting us from time to time. God’s love is perfect, and even when we have a partner who loves us, we still need God’s love both individually and together as a couple in order to keep going.

    God is the King, and he is able to make things work in our favor.

    God says in Jeremiah 29:11
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

    If anyone reading is interested in building a relationship with God, I have a post on that here:

    There is much more to know about God. I post frequently on my blog about topics related to God. You are welcome to follow my blog to keep up with my content. Follow my blog here: 

    -All the best. May God bless you. 

    1. Hi there. Thank you for your comment and the link. It was inspirational. However, I don’t believe in the bible. Man wrote it to manipulate people. The Bible would have a victim of domestic abuse turn the cheek and live with being abused. That said, I believe in a higher energy being. God is within all of us. Unfortunately, most of us have lost the connection. I am reconnecting in ways I didn’t understand.

      1. Hi Angela! I’m sorry to hear that you don’t believe in the Bible. Getting right to the point Jesus talking to the nation of Israel to be tolerant among their own people. If you get insulted or someone strike you to turn the other cheek. Walk away and forgive that person. Should you keep associating with that person if you had a relationship only if they repent. Do you keep taking abuse NO! You pray for that brother or sister but leave that relationship if abuse continue. If your life is threaten you defend yourself even if it means taking that persons’ life. There are many verses in the Bible that makes that clear. I hear that belief in a higher energy being all the time, then who is that? GOD is in all of us! His Holy Spirit is what gives us life. But to continue on living for all eternity you have to do his will. Really study the Bible. The main reason I believe in the MH of the Bible, I look at the heavens and the earth and the Symbiosis( closes word I can think of) between all living organisms some all powerful being had to think of this and put it together. The Bible has been tampered with but the main message is still intact

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