Many overlook the small things and wonder why good employees leave or quit. The small things add up to three strikes, and you’re gone. I am at a crossroads and am unsure of what to do. I need advice! Close friends and family know my concerns and have advised me to quit. They cite my health, personality, and integrity as reasons to stop engaging.
However, I am not a quitter, but I value my time. I recognize the opportunity to work within the grassroots political system to produce change. But it’s a system where I don’t feel supported and am too experienced at reading people to play along.
How do people keep engaged and enthusiastic when microaggression is at play? I want some tools that enable me to look beyond and focus on my purpose.
When I practiced medicine, there was quite a bit of daily microaggression. It was stressful, but I was younger, experienced, and needed to work. So my tool was to be physically present and mentally checked out at meetings or social events. I recognized participating was a waste of my time and energy, so I caught up on patient care during administrative meetings. It worked well, but I did eventually burn out.
Microaggressions exist in many forms, and those who use them to make others feel small or undermine their efforts do so with malice and a desire to see that person leave or feel unwanted. But many actors of that behavior are unaware of their microaggressive attitude toward people of color. They become defensive or fragile when confronted, blaming the target for being so sensitive.
While pondering those thoughts, I discovered why many people don’t vote and will never do. It had nothing to do with transportation, taking time off from work, or the distance of polling locations. Intentionally not voting is a vote of no confidence. It is a protest non-vote against a two-party system that denies constituents a choice or any representation on their platform.
One of the many reasons Hillary Clinton lost to Trump was Democrats ignored their marginalized constituents who did not trust Clinton. Instead, they felt those constituents had no choice but to vote for Clinton, given the choice between her and Trump. The party forgot the option of not voting. While voter turnout was greater than in the 2012 election, the demographics differed.
I am finding it challenging to focus on change. I see people wearing so many hats I wonder how they remain on their heads. Wearing an abundance of hats makes change a backburner issue. Should I continue to struggle or disengage with the system altogether? What would you do if you were in my position?
As I think about my next step, the following quote from Krishnamurti is in my mind.
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”― J. Krishnamurti.