Comments motivated this post. One of the most consistent feedback I get from readers is my tendency to generalize. Often I don’t even realize I generalized. One question is does “generalizing” get in the way of my message? Another question is does this kind of feedback reflect cultural indifference?
My culture is Jamaican-American. We tend to be quick and loud talkers. Hearing our conversation from a distance, people unfamiliar with the culture incorrectly assume we’re arguing, but that is a regular passionate discussion. Further, if you listen carefully, you will hear many generalizations.
I grew up in a culture where we communicated in generalities. When I talk with family, we understand each other despite speaking in generalities. You see it’s a given that not every white person is racist or hate black people. Does common sense need to be prefaced? We understand our communication style and so do not get caught in what I term semantics.
Cultures communicate differently. To appreciate each other, shouldn’t we embrace our different communication styles?
A 2008 survey showed almost 50% of whites believed blacks had achieved racial equality as opposed to 11% of blacks. Nearly 75% of blacks thought racism was still a significant problem as opposed to about a third of whites. That highlights a cultural difference in perception about the existence of racism.
Does generalizing get in the way of the message? For a culture that wants assimilation yes it does. For a culture that is unwilling to embrace other cultures yes it does. For a culture that is indifferent yes it does.
Going forward, I welcome more feedback. Presume unless I say 100% I don’t mean everyone. We learn from each other by communicating. Lack of communication is what divides us so let’s be flexible and use common sense when we communicate.
What is more important in communication? Understanding the culture and message of the communicator or making sure the communicator assimilates to the prevailing values and standards.
With that said, I recognize there will be a price to pay for my communication style.
My intent is to increase awareness and get readers thinking about issues surrounding culture and social justice.
NO. Why? Black men have disseminated their sperm cells, but very few are good fathers or husbands. They don’t have good role models.
DO BLACK MEN HOLD BLACK WOMEN BACK?
Yes! Black women have misplaced loyalty towards black men who often take advantage of them and treat them poorly. Black women have come to accept their roles as hoes and baby mammas to unemployed, uneducated black men most of whom are ex-convicts. What kind of future is that?
SHOULD BLACK WOMEN LOOK OUTSIDE OF BLACK MEN TO START A FAMILY?
Yes, if black women want to escape poverty and want a future for their children, they should consider marrying outside of the American black culture. Not all of us are as lucky as Michelle Obama, besides there are rumors Barack may prefer men to women. That is a big problem within the black community, reducing the number of available black men. Too many prefer other men or white women, leaving most black women single if they refuse to date or marry outside their race.
This is off-topic but have you noticed many black women look like black men? I started seeing this on TV shows like The Wire, and it’s becoming a disturbing trend.
Frankly, many black people carry themselves in such a way that even I am scared when I see them, and I’m black. What happened to hygiene and pride in one’s appearance?
Is our race adapting in ways that will ultimately lead to our demise?
A Man Changes His Skin Color from White to Black – Oprah
Elif Shafak: The politics of fiction
These days blacks are not allowed to talk about race only whites are allowed. When black people talk about race it is called race-baiting or using the race-card. So blacks should shut-up and listen to white folks tell us about racism.
Since my experience of racism is irrelevant and playing the race card, I decided to change the dialogue to white culture. I want to learn and understand the ways of slave owners, most of whom were evil people (devil worshippers), pedophiles, rapists of little boys and girls and murderers.