FFT: When Humor Hurts A Friend

Food for thought inspired by a silly FB post.  I learned that conflict is an opportunity for growth.   I also learned  culture matters.

Most saw the humor in the post, but others outraged that I offended Melania’s honor made such a comment:

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw this. I never expected you could post shit like this. You’ve lowered yourself now to the level of people you question and totally reject. Shame on you.

“When they go low, we go high” Remember that one?

Being a thoughtful person, I saw an opportunity to manage offended people. Without conflict, there is no growth, right? Believe you me, I don’t usually think like this, but I did this time.

When a post offends a friend, how do you manage the fallout? Should you delete the post not to risk hurting or losing friends? I’d like to hear your thoughts since I didn’t manage this one well.

Once I sensed conflict I wanted to understand why someone would get upset over a meme-tweet of a person they never met? And whose husband was the élite pussy grabber who proudly coined the term for himself?  Trump inspired the tweet and my FB post. Responses of friends mystified me, considering it is near damn impossible not to make fun of Trump and his family.

This was an example where culture matters.

When Obama was President, I saw countless derogatory images, memes, and tweets of Michelle Obama on FB and Twitter.  Though hurtful, I didn’t take them personally.  Unlike Trump, Obama and his family did not tweet disparaging remarks about women, immigrants and disabled people.  Still, social media ridiculed the Obama family including their children.

Being told how wrong it was to criticize Melania, I thought of the innocent black men, women, and children humiliated and murdered daily.  How come friends showed no outrage or support for those innocent people?  My experience was a peek into culture and its multi-dimensional nature.

Next time a friend gets offended by humor or posts or tweets:

  • Ask why the topic is important to them
  • That will give insight into motive
  • Knowing motive will help understand and predict behavior

Performing the above will ease tension, improve communication and hopefully outcome.  Imagine the impact on understanding  each other.

Most don’t see conflict as an opportunity for growth.

This post was edited on 5/14/2018

 

 

 

 

FFT: Could Fake News Help Us Unravel The Truth?

Food For Thought (FFT)

Today during a conversation about fake news with a friend, it occurred to me that instead of calling news we disagree with fake, we should presume all news and information are biased and embedded with lies. In the last decades, our sources of information and news ballooned, leading to disinformation and #fakenews becoming dominant forces of manipulation. We need the ability to accept any information–false or facts– then decide its veracity.

All fake stories have a basis in fact even if the only truth was the story was false. Why did some entity or someone create the #fake news? Gleaning motives for false news may prove invaluable in understanding society and ultimately lead to the truth that some want to avoid.

Perhaps, the solution to disinformation is to embrace it by understanding its motive as well as content. Such an approach to news could lead to a literate society with insight and understanding of each other and the world.  If you understood the motive for a story,  could you unravel the truth?

Who Decides The News

Source of image: Pinterest

Questions Remain In The Aftermath Of The Conservative White Christian Terrorist Bomber

Mark Conditt, the terrorist bomber from Texas, blew himself up as a SWAT team surrounded him. We know little about him except he was a  conservative white Christian man who harbored antiabortion views yet murdered two African Americans from prominent families and injured multiple others.

  1. Why didn’t the bombings receive widespread coverage, despite Austin Police asking for the public’s help,  until two white men were injured last Sunday?
  2. It appears Mark Conditt had ties to Austin, Texas, what were those ties?
  3. Who was the package or packages addressed to that exploded at the FedEx facility in Schertz, Tx?
  4. Can his friends or family tell us more about him?
  5. Was he employed, unemployed or a student?
  6. Did he belong to a radicalized far-right group?
  7. Is there evidence he was not working alone?
  8. How could a person who claims to be pro-life murder innocent people?

America is at a crossroads. Do we make America white by minimizing the crimes of white men and incarcerate people of color?  Or do we make America great by labeling African countries “shitholes”  or the Muslim religion terrorist?

Why do we label members of #BlackLivesMatter who protest violence terrorists or Black Identity Extremists? Why do we continue to label white conservative Christians, the overwhelming perpetrators of domestic terrorism,  mentally ill or lone wolf members of a hate group?   Why aren’t conservative white Christians labeled terrorists when they terrorize Americans?  

We need a national discussion of these double standards.   We need to break down the barriers that separate us and recognize most of us yearn for the same things:  peace and love as well as life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

What do you think?

Let’s Move Beyond The Social Construct Of Race

Labels of a white supremacist society

All Lives Can’t Matter Until #BlackLivesMatter

So much division and violence in the world today. I guess that has always been the case throughout history. The difference is we are more knowledgeable than our ancestors. We know despite the differences in the color of our skins, we all belong to the human race.

Race is a social construct created by behavioral scientists to study different groups. Such knowledge may shock you, but race is not genetic. In other words, there is no Black or African gene, no Asian gene, no Native American gene, no Anglo-Saxon white gene or Latino gene. Civilization began in Africa, the racial differences we see among each other are due to geographic differences and are not genetic.

Many do not believe or even know of this. I recall an anecdotal study where a racially diverse class had DNA samples of their students analyzed. The findings were astonishing to the students. One would think black people are more closely related to each other than to other racial groups and the same for Asians and whites. But that was not the finding. It turned out you could not predict based on phenotype. A black female student was just as likely to find her genes more closely related to that of a white male than her black classmates. Race did not predict the relationship between genotypes.

Unfortunately, US history is tainted, and myths have become facts in the minds of the ignorant. We have kids, mostly white males who believe the white race is under attack and at risk of genocide. They blame people of color for their problems and believe violence is the only solution to save the white race from extinction. So they go out and randomly murder innocent people and children in public places to induce fear and become infamous.  Later, they may even get a book deal or a movie.

According to reports, there were 18 high school shootings so far this year, about one mass shooting a week, most committed by men, white men spewing racist jargon they picked up on Fox News and the over 900 protected terrorist white supremacist groups in the US.

Ironically, many of these groups are pro-life and vehemently declare “All Lives Matter.” But all lives cannot matter until Black Lives Matter. These terrorist white supremacist groups don’t see or care to understand. These groups, as well as many whites, take offense at the thought that Black Lives Matter.  Think about that for a moment.

Why do white men get away with murder? At least that is the opinion of many people of color.  Seems every other ethnic group or organization is heavily surveilled by the US government and labeled a threat except white terrorist groups euphemistically called hate groups.  Our society downplays their terrorism, calling it hate or mental illness.   While gun control is important, objectivity, consistency in enforcement and interpretation of the law and justice are more important.  At the moment,  white men are rewarded for murder.

Lord, help us to appreciate our differences as well as our shared values and ancient ancestry. Let us look to nature as a model of diversity. And marvel at how seamlessly and beautifully nature accommodates. It’s time we move beyond race and ascend to a higher level of thought that brings us together as one human race.  A race that values the lives of our children, our loved ones and each other.

Below are two videos.  The first video is short and touches on the school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland Florida where 17 people were murdered. The last video is a classic– Blue Eyes/Brown Eyes Experiment by Jane Elliott

In This World of Attrition

In This World of Attrition

by  Anonymous

This world
Has been through too much
What it has seen, what it can be
The destruction of humanity
You were promised
A perfect world

You were deceived
And you will need to leave
Once you are gone
You’ll be forgotten
In this world of attrition

Must I say it once
This world is fucked
And death has touched
These lives have sucked

So this is what I say

Go fuck yourself, you fucking whore
You have destroyed this fucking world
Fake promises bringing the word
Has surely created a fucking war

This world
Has seen much worse
Than all the rest
Promised to be the best
Did we pass the test?
Yes

Promised to let us make
Our own history
But times have told
That they made our history
Yeah

When mistakes are made
They say they’re always made
And it’s okay, what lies they say
As they quickly judge you day by day
Just as a body would decay

So this is what I say

Go Fuck Yourself, you fucking whore
You have destroyed this fucking world
Fake promises bringing the word
Has surely created a fucking war

With everything that has happened
I say this

Go fuck yourself, you fucking whore
You have destroyed this fucking world
Fake promises bringing the word
Has surely created a fucking war

Go fuck yourself, you fucking whore
You have destroyed this fucking world
Fake promises bringing the word
Has surely created a fucking war

In This World Of Attrition

Editor’s Note: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year

It’s been a long time since my last post, that will change.   Looking forward to the New Year!!!

“Peace cannot be kept by force.  It can only be achieved by understanding.” – Albert Einstein

 

I Am So Fucking Sick Of This World

I am so fucking sick of this world: The bullshit from all sides and the pretense that we live in some sort of democracy where everyone is treated equally or has equal access to basic justice.   I am so fucking sick of the bullshit I hear coming from so-called pundits and experts who fortify the foundation of lies, denials and inequality.

In the eyes of those that benefit from the status quo, racism is non-existent.  Black people are not denied basic access to decent housing or healthcare.  Police brutality doesn’t exist.  It is justified for cops to drive up to a playground and without communication and within seconds shoot and kill a 13-year-old kid playing with his toy gun.

This in a country where the NRA exalts the rights of white men and women to own guns but remains silent when such rights are denied to black men and women.  Philandro Castile murdered for owning a gun legally. I am so fucking sick of this world of bullshit, racism and hypocrisy.

The real terrorism in this world is the status quo.  It’s pervasive, nuanced, overt, structural and deeply embedded as it terrorizes and kills those who are different or refuse to swallow bullshit.  It kills the soul and the heart follows as more people live dead.  It denies targeted ethnic groups safety then blames them for their deaths. Denies those groups decent education, funneling them to prisons and forced servitude then label them lazy and violent.

I am so fucking sick of the status quo. I understand why someone tired of this world would say, I am going but not alone.  That is a person defeated by a ruthless system where recourse or justice is an illusion, not accessible in this life or world.

Yes, I am so fucking sick of this world and I don’t give a fuck whether what I write is proper or not.

Fuck this world!!! #FUCKTHISWORLD #IAmSoFuckingSickOfThisWorld