FFT: When Humor Hurts A Friend

Food for thought inspired by a silly FB post.  I learned that conflict is an opportunity for growth.   I also learned  culture matters.

Most saw the humor in the post, but others outraged that I offended Melania’s honor made such a comment:

I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw this. I never expected you could post shit like this. You’ve lowered yourself now to the level of people you question and totally reject. Shame on you.

“When they go low, we go high” Remember that one?

Being a thoughtful person, I saw an opportunity to manage offended people. Without conflict, there is no growth, right? Believe you me, I don’t usually think like this, but I did this time.

When a post offends a friend, how do you manage the fallout? Should you delete the post not to risk hurting or losing friends? I’d like to hear your thoughts since I didn’t manage this one well.

Once I sensed conflict I wanted to understand why someone would get upset over a meme-tweet of a person they never met? And whose husband was the élite pussy grabber who proudly coined the term for himself?  Trump inspired the tweet and my FB post. Responses of friends mystified me, considering it is near damn impossible not to make fun of Trump and his family.

This was an example where culture matters.

When Obama was President, I saw countless derogatory images, memes, and tweets of Michelle Obama on FB and Twitter.  Though hurtful, I didn’t take them personally.  Unlike Trump, Obama and his family did not tweet disparaging remarks about women, immigrants and disabled people.  Still, social media ridiculed the Obama family including their children.

Being told how wrong it was to criticize Melania, I thought of the innocent black men, women, and children humiliated and murdered daily.  How come friends showed no outrage or support for those innocent people?  My experience was a peek into culture and its multi-dimensional nature.

Next time a friend gets offended by humor or posts or tweets:

  • Ask why the topic is important to them
  • That will give insight into motive
  • Knowing motive will help understand and predict behavior

Performing the above will ease tension, improve communication and hopefully outcome.  Imagine the impact on understanding  each other.

Most don’t see conflict as an opportunity for growth.

This post was edited on 5/14/2018

 

 

 

 

FFT: Could Fake News Help Us Unravel The Truth?

Food For Thought (FFT)

Today during a conversation about fake news with a friend, it occurred to me that instead of calling news we disagree with fake, we should presume all news and information are biased and embedded with lies. In the last decades, our sources of information and news ballooned, leading to disinformation and #fakenews becoming dominant forces of manipulation. We need the ability to accept any information–false or facts– then decide its veracity.

All fake stories have a basis in fact even if the only truth was the story was false. Why did some entity or someone create the #fake news? Gleaning motives for false news may prove invaluable in understanding society and ultimately lead to the truth that some want to avoid.

Perhaps, the solution to disinformation is to embrace it by understanding its motive as well as content. Such an approach to news could lead to a literate society with insight and understanding of each other and the world.  If you understood the motive for a story,  could you unravel the truth?

Who Decides The News

Source of image: Pinterest

Questions Remain In The Aftermath Of The Conservative White Christian Terrorist Bomber

Mark Conditt, the terrorist bomber from Texas, blew himself up as a SWAT team surrounded him. We know little about him except he was a  conservative white Christian man who harbored antiabortion views yet murdered two African Americans from prominent families and injured multiple others.

  1. Why didn’t the bombings receive widespread coverage, despite Austin Police asking for the public’s help,  until two white men were injured last Sunday?
  2. It appears Mark Conditt had ties to Austin, Texas, what were those ties?
  3. Who was the package or packages addressed to that exploded at the FedEx facility in Schertz, Tx?
  4. Can his friends or family tell us more about him?
  5. Was he employed, unemployed or a student?
  6. Did he belong to a radicalized far-right group?
  7. Is there evidence he was not working alone?
  8. How could a person who claims to be pro-life murder innocent people?

America is at a crossroads. Do we make America white by minimizing the crimes of white men and incarcerate people of color?  Or do we make America great by labeling African countries “shitholes”  or the Muslim religion terrorist?

Why do we label members of #BlackLivesMatter who protest violence terrorists or Black Identity Extremists? Why do we continue to label white conservative Christians, the overwhelming perpetrators of domestic terrorism,  mentally ill or lone wolf members of a hate group?   Why aren’t conservative white Christians labeled terrorists when they terrorize Americans?  

We need a national discussion of these double standards.   We need to break down the barriers that separate us and recognize most of us yearn for the same things:  peace and love as well as life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.

What do you think?

I Am So Fucking Sick Of This World

I am so fucking sick of this world: The bullshit from all sides and the pretense that we live in some sort of democracy where everyone is treated equally or has equal access to basic justice.   I am so fucking sick of the bullshit I hear coming from so-called pundits and experts who fortify the foundation of lies, denials and inequality.

In the eyes of those that benefit from the status quo, racism is non-existent.  Black people are not denied basic access to decent housing or healthcare.  Police brutality doesn’t exist.  It is justified for cops to drive up to a playground and without communication and within seconds shoot and kill a 13-year-old kid playing with his toy gun.

This in a country where the NRA exalts the rights of white men and women to own guns but remains silent when such rights are denied to black men and women.  Philandro Castile murdered for owning a gun legally. I am so fucking sick of this world of bullshit, racism and hypocrisy.

The real terrorism in this world is the status quo.  It’s pervasive, nuanced, overt, structural and deeply embedded as it terrorizes and kills those who are different or refuse to swallow bullshit.  It kills the soul and the heart follows as more people live dead.  It denies targeted ethnic groups safety then blames them for their deaths. Denies those groups decent education, funneling them to prisons and forced servitude then label them lazy and violent.

I am so fucking sick of the status quo. I understand why someone tired of this world would say, I am going but not alone.  That is a person defeated by a ruthless system where recourse or justice is an illusion, not accessible in this life or world.

Yes, I am so fucking sick of this world and I don’t give a fuck whether what I write is proper or not.

Fuck this world!!! #FUCKTHISWORLD #IAmSoFuckingSickOfThisWorld

The US Spends Over 55cents Of Each Tax Dollar On The Military

A nation that continues year after year to spend more money on military defense than on programs of social uplift is approaching spiritual doom. -Martin Luther King Jr.

US military is very powerful, it can nuke spiritual doom.   Americans need not fear loss of the sentiments of humanity.  We have the military! Look how well they have done so far.  We have nothing to fear.

 

Death

Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.

What is it that dies inside of us while we live?  I don’t know for you but for me it was hope.  What is life without hope?

Life ended a while back, a living shell remains, eventually that too will crumble, returning to Mother Nature’s life cycle.

Adversity

There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time. – Malcolm X

Next time you feel defeated think about this quote.  Go to the balcony, process the full picture and find the opportunities for  self-growth as well as improved performance beneath those feelings of failure.