ABUSED BY A PARENT (Draft)

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                                                                                                     Shhh, it’s a family secret! 

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Child Abuse  presents in four ways:

1.  neglect; 2.  physical abuse; 3. psychological maltreatment; 4. sexual abuse.

Children up to one years old have the highest victimization (child abuse) rate.

Four of five cases were from neglect. child-abuse1   One of five was from physical abuse.          78%  from neglect

18% from physical abuse cases

9%  from sexual abuse

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Four out of five DEATHS were in children younger than 4 years old.

            Most were boys younger than four years old who  died from  physical abuse or    neglect.

Children with disabilities were  twice as likely to be victims of abuse as children without disabilities.

Children with disabilities were less likely to be believed,

Victimization was about equal for gender

Parents were responsible for 4/5 of child fatalities

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 4/5 of perpetrators were 20-39 years old

Child Abuse is the greatest crime against humanity and it happens far more often than the stats above indicate.

This is a draft!

What is the role of Education?

“Are children receiving the best education to prepare for the challenges of life, people and education?”

What is the role of Education?

Today, children are suffering from a lack of human guidance. They exist in a virtual world of texting and social networking sites. Their role models live in cyberspace, doling out advice, instilling cyber-values, and beliefs. Cyberspace is an exciting world where anything can happen, and kids can be who they want to be. It can be a magical world where they can meet new friends. Unfortunately, some have used this space to exploit others. Masquerading as friends, virtual predators seduce children and alter their lives forever.

What is the role of our educational systems in supporting these children as they navigate the problems of self, community, family, teachers, Internet, and cell phones?

The follow-up question is, “Are children receiving the best education to prepare for the challenges of life, people, and education?” This question resonates loudly among government agencies, educators, health care providers, and parents, especially in the wake of the Newtown tragedy, as well as the manhunt in CA. I believe the core of this debate centers on defining “education and the role of schools.” The role of education has always been to prepare the next generation’s workforce, to sustain our economy, and to keep the government going, among others.

This is my area of interest, and I hope to share my thoughts on this topic in a two-part series. The emphasis is on upstream interventions and the universal promotion of health and well-being in schools.

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Related article:

What is the role of Education? Part II

 

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This Parents’ Decision About College Football

Weighing the risk versus the benefits, I think my son should shuck football for the books, but it is his decision

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This Parents’ Decision About College Football

Who is a Football Mamma? When did I become one?

Perhaps, it was the realization that my child stood a better chance of getting a sport scholarship than an academic loan. That is definitely a cultural shift from my time, where academics were the tickets to college. Today, its sports. Like everything else, rules to exploit high school students and their parents are the norm; putting them at the mercy of coaches and online businesses meant to exploit their fears and dreams. Now, that we are aware of the long-term health risks, I question the benefits, particularly, when the number of players who go on to become pro or NFL players is so few. Why would I now knowingly let my child play football (given it is responsible for most sports-related injuries) if the risk of injury is so much higher than the benefits?

A recent experience made me think even further about this. While my son is old enough to make his own decisions, I am now not in full support of this football track because the risks are too high, and the benefits, minimal.

I think it is ridiculous that some colleges charge over $200 for a basketball game. Are the players reimbursed for their work? They deserve it! If they get injured later, suffer from medical sequelae, shouldn’t they be reimbursed? A full scholarship is not enough considering the millions and billions of dollars made off these athletes and the high risk of permanent disability!

However, the NCAA’s idea of protecting the athletes appears to be to “sock it to parents” using the paternal rhetoric of protecting the innocent young players. Seems to me the NCAA succeeded in removing players and families from the growing money pie, creating greater portions for themselves and others in the business. Call me jaded but this is ubiquitous and reality!

Recently, I had the displeasure of witnessing one of NCAA football rules: parents have to pay for lunch at recruiting events such as Junior Day. I paid $20 for my son and I to attend such an event; the money was for lunch (later about that). It occurred to me: if the college paid all expenses, only those players of interest would be invited, reducing the number from 50-60 invited players to 10-15. In other words, the rest of us paid for our fill-in background roles.

I can only say the meal was horrible – thoughts of diarrhea could not be suppressed, and the salad was tasteless. For $10, I had three cookies and water—not even a cup of coffee to keep my eyes and mind open to the rhetoric and propaganda fed parents and students in the main room while backdoor offers of admission and scholarships were made. Afraid I would start to snore, I left the main room to witness families and players scurrying off to private rooms with various head coaches. I also overheard the congratulations and saw the happy smiles emerging from those private rooms.

I probably irked some people with my observations and honesty (a missing quality in these circles and others). My son was mad at me. Football, like any other large industry with the power to squash the weak (me), wants compliance and team players, not questions. I hope I didn’t harm my son.

I often wonder, “What is a team player?” In the world of sports, I guess it’s someone who shuts up and does what he’s told.

Weighing the risks versus the benefits, I think my son should shuck football for the books, but this is his decision—and his Failure to Listen to Mom! (LOL)

Failure to Listen

Failure to listen takes you on a journey filled with culture and personal tales.

If you listen, Failure to listen is more than written words; we will see culture unfold in our interactions and stories.

I will let it hang-out and I hope others will also…

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Failure to listen is a site devoted to the beauty of our differences coming together.

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Failure to listen is a site devoted to the beauty of our differences coming together.

Failure to listen takes you on a journey filled with personal growth.

If you listen, Failure to listen is more than written words; it’s our stories told through different lens, filled with ever-changing cultures – unique combinations and experiences linked to our identities, values, and beliefs.

We will see ourselves in each other.

Let’s share our experiences; its many art forms of communication as we embark on the adventures of listening – seeing the world through different lenses.

Enough Already About Manti Te’o

He is a kid! Let’s not hold him to standards that even our politicians fail to meet. He didn’t tell the entire truth to immediately. Wow, that is surprising… He was scared! He committed no crime yet he was treated like the perpetrator and not the victim.…

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