In this article, the Rhode Island program reflects the ignorance of the dominant culture on many levels, and the dangers posed by some of these so-called well-intentioned programs to help disadvantaged families.
In this article, a Rhode Island program reflects the ignorance of the dominant culture on many levels, and the dangers posed by some of those so-called well-intentioned programs to help disadvantaged families.
“Everything bad is black and everything white is right.”
Race relationships are better, though there is still plenty of room for improvement.
I don’t live in fear of being lynched, as did many before me, because their courage and deaths changed the law.
But I still live in fear for my boys because racism is alive and well. It has morphed and is now nuanced. What does that mean?
I never receive the benefit of the doubt like my white colleagues. If I did some of the things my white colleagues have done, I would lose my license. People choose to think the worst of me. I don’t get invited to many parties. I constantly have to prove that I have a functioning brain—let alone an intelligent one. At any moment, some uneducated low-life could call my children nigger, and they could end up falsely imprisoned. Sounds trivial, but imagine having those experiences on a chronic basis. How would you feel then?
Now, let’s add the daily, nuanced reminders of my inferior status. I can handle myself, but it takes a toll, in the form of chronic toxic stress, and it hurts deeply. It has just occurred to me that it is taking a toll on my children! (I need to go easier on them.)
Did you know the infant mortality rate for Michelle Obama’s daughters’ children (or rather successful black women) will be more than twice the infant mortality rate for poor, uneducated white females living on welfare (unless our culture of intolerance changes)? That is stunning and speaks to the deleterious effects of the racism on black women.
In our society, there is a common theme: Everything associated with the black culture is bad, and everything associated with the white culture is good and classy. This is victimization of the black culture, stripping us of social capital. Gaining social capital requires not being black!
“Everything bad is black and everything white is right.” BLACK-WHITE23
I hope my friends do not think they are included in this segment about race. I am simply verbalizing the thoughts and feelings of many racist white people, many of whom are very Liberal. Racism is a systemic, institutionalized problem. For many people of color, success and acceptance mean donning a mask that denigrates their culture.
Wearing that mask made me feel guilty speaking to another black person in public (how crazy is that?). If there were three or more of us, the stares made me feel dirty, as if we were planning some criminal activity.
Why do white people feel uncomfortable when three or more black people are in their midst, but at ease with a rowdy bunch of profane, white teenagers? White teenagers don’t get the stares or the clenching of handbags, nor do I see fear in the eyes of white passerbys. I guess that is white privilege!
Too bad white people don’t do the same for black people!
What the Hell is the “Black Experience(BE)?”
Have you ever been a part of a conversation physically, but not socially? Everyone makes eye contact with each other except you. They are all planning some other event, and you are not invited! Without knowing it, you are invisible and irrelevant to them.
These nuanced encounters happen every day to black children and adults everywhere. Still, I think it is all in my head, but repeated experiences nag incessantly, telling me it is not in my head! Yes, I know this happens to other cultural groups, but does that negate its profound and pervasive effects on the minds and attitudes of black people? Additionally, there are very significant historical differences.
These nuanced non-verbals indicate white people’s discomfort with black people and black issues to the point they can’t even look into your eyes while in serious conversation. Nevertheless, they want diversity or a little color. Make no mistake; you or your ideas are not of interest or importance to them unless you can find champion in their culture.
Such was my experience at a recent meeting. In the past, this would ruin the night, but not this time. The people who refused to look me in the eyes were also the leaders and, deceitfully, the most passionate advocates for disenfranchised people/communities.
Then there was the “Aha” moment! I realized, “This is the problem!” These are the same people who sustain a system grounded in social conformity, with its injustices, inequities, and lack of access for minority groups. They wear facades of advocacy—intentionally or not—while perpetuating a system whose intricately woven threads of discrimination, fear, and hate form the fabric of our society.
What kind of help can these kinds of advocates offer poor, uneducated black people, or other minorities?
Maybe it’s time we talk about race. Yeah, sure we are all equal.
I am tired of seeing the world through the lens of a culture that is not my own.
Besides the usual suspects, entitlements to research universities, religious and non-profit organizations should be eliminated. (Our tax dollars keep them in business.)
However, some of these entitlements are worthy and should continue just like entitlements that save our children from homelessness should not be discontinued.
By changing the distribution (of funds) channels to cut the middlemen, state agencies with its CRONYISM. Give directly to communities! We may save money, cut waste and cut fraud.
Most importantly, drop some unnecessary research that have no meaningful application to tax payers. Let private money pay for special interest research, which can then be beautifully bounded in ornately decorated hard cover books, preserved on someone’s shelves.
We have tracking technology and meaningful metrics for Wall Street, why aren’t we using them in overseeing some of these other entitlements? .
Tax payers are starting to listen, even those who, “don’t pay federal tax.”