I burnt out on dating. It’s hard work and highly superficial. In my experience, it’s become a process that leads to sex or no sex with another. It’s not about getting to know another person or a long-term relationship. I am not saying those things don’t happen, but it hasn’t for me.
How many people find love or their soulmate with online dating? According to a Pew study, 30% of adults used online dating apps. Only 12% found committed relationships through dating apps. While 60% had positive experiences, over 30% did not. When they dug deeper, they found that 1 in 3 felt harassed, offended, or threatened by someone they met through a dating app.
Early on, when online dating was new, I had wonderful experiences and met a few great guys. However, I had terrible experiences too—fortunately, none where I felt threatened. I don’t put myself in situations where I might be threatened, such as going to a man’s house for dinner after a couple of dates. When a man offers to cook me dinner on a second or third date, that’s a red flag. It means he wants sex, and if I don’t want the same, I don’t want a confrontation on unfamiliar turf.
With those odds, am I wasting time with online dating? It’s a part-time job that could become full-time if I let it. I guess it offers hope. It’s my lottery ticket to finding a man. How else will I find my guy?